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What You Need To Know About Each Star Sign’s Toxic Traits Before You Date Them 

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While we love an eclipse that signals when to dump our partner or a horoscope that will help us get through the week, astrology’s greatest gift is to those of us out on the dating market. While “What time were you born?” is a cliche question, it’s also a quick way to screen potential lovers and partners for long and short-term problems. Even if you don’t believe in astrology, wondering if you’re prospective boyfriend, “Aries Venus,” makes him love them or leave them type might help you keep an eye out for red flags.

And, if you are a believer in astrology, knowing your male partner’s potentially toxic traits can help you anticipate potential problems, navigate bad times or steer clear of the situation entirely. This list doesn’t mean you should completely write off a lover. One person’s astrological dealbreaker is another person’s lovable foible.

And, we can tell you from experience that even the most dire co-star compatibility reading can’t dissuade the freshly infatuated fire sign from pursuing a relationship with a non-commital, hyper-sensitive water sign.

But, it can help you scan for red flags, feel a sense of “I told you so” when things go south or send “it him” screenshots to your friends during a post-breakup hate-read.

For this list, we’ve focused on men because they typically provide better examples of signs “worst” traits (Donald Trump! King Henry VIII! Drake!) but you can apply this to all genders as you please.

If you want to know who you should date based on your star sign we do have you covered, but for now, strap in for the worst of the worst.

How To Read An Astrological Chart

In this piece, we’re talking about sun signs. But a sun sign is only one placement in your chart. Here’s a quick breakdown of some other placements you can look out for when you’re dating.

What Is A Sun Sign?

Your sun sign typically reflects your aspirations, where you feel most comfortable, and what inspires you.

What Is A Rising Sign?

Your rising sign will typically influence how you show up in the world daily. For instance, if you’re a Pisces sun but have Capricorn rising, you may feel happiest when you’re expressing love and creativity – two things Pisces greatly value – in gentle key settings. But, in your day-to-day, people might describe you as hard-headed and practical.

What Is Your Moon Sign?

Your moon sign represents your deepest emotions, the lens you use to view your fears, longings, intuitions, and memories. It’s where your emotional “deepest darkest secrets” are stored.

What Are Your Venus And Mars Signs?

Your Venus influences how you relate to others, experience pleasure, and express yourself romantically. Your Mars will shed light on your desires, sexuality, and anger.

You might find yourself dating someone with a perfectly compatible top three. Still, as a relationship goes on, if your Venus and Mars signs aren’t aligned, you may find your relationship emotionally or sexually falling short.

In any chart, each placement has positives and negatives, and here, we’re looking at some of the sign’s worst potential traits to watch out for.

Toxic Traits According To Their Star Sign:

Aries (March 21-April 19)

Rapper Chance The Rapper speaks onstage during 2019 Urban One Honors at MGM National Harbor on December 05, 2019 in Oxon Hill, Maryland.
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Aries men are ruled by Mars, the planet of war and action. This means they’re both spontaneous, impatient, quick to anger and highly competitive. They like things their way once they’ve made a decision, they like to move ahead quickly. If they’ve booked an Airbnb for the weekend and they’re telling you about it with a week’s notice, you can expect a genuine temper tantrum. Male celebrity Aries include Chance the Rapper, who has gotten in trouble for going wild on Twitter (now X) (never trust an Aries man with access to a social media platform) and disappeared from relevance.

Topline Aries man negative traits: doesn’t think before they Tweet, competitive, argumentative

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

Henry Cavill attends Netflix's "Enola Holmes 2" World Premiere at The Paris Theatre on October 27, 2022 in New York City.
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Taureans love luxury and comfort and hate changing their mind about anything. In a relationship, this can mean they’re great at picking (their favourite) restaurants and bad at listening to your needs. One friend of ELLE had to break up with a Taurus three times before her request to end the relationship was met with anything other than “no”. Henry Cavill is a classic Taurean man. His favourite hobby is video games (something you can do at home), and he’s cancelled himself multiple times by making self-involved comments about how the #MeToo movement could potentially affect him.

Topline Taurus man negative traits: homebody, inflexible, bad at reading the room

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

Kanye West attends the "Schiaparelli And Prada: Impossible Conversations" Costume Institute Gala at the Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 7, 2012 in New York City.
(Credit: Getty/Kevin Mazur)

Gemini men are great partners if you’re extremely busy, have next to no emotional needs and love a chat. While they get a bad rap for being one of the flightiest signs of the Zodiac, they actually love a long-term relationship (think rarely single Kanye West and Donald Trump).

Long-term relationships typically require less maintenance than short-term courtships, and while Geminis like space in theory, they also need constant sounding boards for their ideas and social contact; it’s just on their terms.

Naturally flirtatious, they’re a bad sign to be with if you’re insecure. But you should be less worried about infidelity and more worried about social climbing. They’ll leave you alone at a party where you don’t know anyone if there’s someone more important to talk to. If they decide you’re not good enough to impress the current target of their social aspirations, they’ll dump you for someone who is (or give you a makeover a la Kanye and Kim). Indeed, despite their reputation for cheating, Geminis are so “in their head” that they often deprioritise sex because they’re too focused on their next idea or project. This can leave even their partners unsure if they have a lover or an extremely talkative housemate.

Topline Gemini man negative traits: distant, two-faced, social climber, unpredictable

Male Celebrity Gemini: Kanye West

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

Jonathan Rhys Meyers as Henry VIII in The Tudors
A cancer man deciding on the most dramatic possible way to break up with you (Credit: Peace Arch Entertainment )

Cancer men are deeply emotional, and their intensity can feel good at the start of a relationship when you’re the centre of their world. Unfortunately, Cancer men are extremely moody and often rely on their partners for happiness, projecting all of their problems onto you. Cancer men tend to focus on the negative and are likely to project all of their problems onto you if you can. Moody and insecure, trying to make a hyper-sensitive Cancer man happy can be an uphill battle with few rewards. When you fall short, they’re likely to turn elsewhere for comfort.

The best example of this dilemma is the famous romantic King Henry VIII, who lovebombed and churned through six unfortunate wives (and had two of the most dramatic breakups in history) in his quest for the perfect woman.

Topline negative Cancer man traits: negative, moody, will look to you as soul source of comfort

Male Celebrity Cancer: King Henry VIII

Leo (July 23-August 22)

Actor Ben Affleck at the Chateau Marmont Hotel, February 20, 1998 in Los Angeles, California.
How a Leo man looks at you before he ruins your life (Credit: Getty/Bob Riha, Jr. )

Charismatic and glamorous you’ll probably feel like the best person in the world when a Leo man turns his focus on you. Unfortunately, Leos have huge egos and, beneath them, deep insecurity, so if you can’t keep up with a constant stream of affection and positivity because you have a job or other life commitments, they’re likely to become irritable, insecure and controlling. Whatever they say, they secretly believe they deserve the best and have a low tolerance for not getting their way; fail to satisfy and they’ll be secretly scrolling Hinge and gone (girl) before you know it.

Ben Affleck, a famous repeat boyfriend and man about town, pretty much summed it up in a 1999 Playboy interview. He admitted his relationships “never end well” because as soon as he becomes dissatisfied or unhappy, “I end up wanting to be out of the relationship.” And copped to creating “incidents” to prompt breakups.

If you thought catering to a Leo was annoying in a relationship, it’s even more annoying out of it. They make the worst exes in the Zodiac because they still see themselves as the biggest star in your solar system. Even if they’re the ones who left you, expect attention-seeking behaviour, a constant need for reassurance, long phone calls and, as per Ben Affleck, intermittent attempts at reunion for as long as you live.

Topline Leo man negative traits: thrive on drama, demanding, self-involved

Male Celebrity Leo: Ben Affleck

Virgo (August 23-September 22)

Charlie Sheen
(Credit: Getty) The original American Psychos

Virgo men usually have a strong sense of personal style and, initially, come off clever and composed. But they’re also nitpickers obsessed with aesthetics. Not only will they get irritated if you leave the lid off the toothpaste even once or stack the dishwasher incorrectly, but they’re also likely to criticise everything from your outfits to your skincare regime. And if you’re used to “borrowing” hoodies or other items during a relationship, don’t think of touching theirs. It’s probably Loewe, and you can expect an invoice if you get your makeup on it. Virgo men are masters of suppressing their emotions until important dates like your birthday when they’ll throw a tantrum in a restaurant and yell at a waiter. Expect chaos in later life.

The longer you are in a relationship with a Virgo, the more faults they’ll find with you until one day they’ll ask you why your elbows are so dry and you’ll leave.

Topline Virgo man negative traits: perfectionists, irritable, fussy, superficial

Virgo Male Celebrity: Charlie Sheen

Libra (September 23-October 22)

John Krasinski attends a preview screening of Tom Clancy's Jack Ryan Season 3 at Hoyts Entertainment Quarter on December 12, 2022 in Sydney, Australia.
(Credit: Getty/Don Arnold )

Typically charming, if you’re dating a Libran you’ll feel like you’re dating the most popular guy in school. They love harmony, beauty and balance in all things, which is great until you want them to pick a restaurant, plan a holiday or back you in a disagreement.

It won’t happen, and what might strike you at first as a dreamy, whimsical demeanour often translates to an unreliable, emotionally detached partner who doesn’t think about you that much. They will cancel dates and forget about important events unless they’re constantly reminded.

Ruled by Venus, Librans value money and beautiful things. They’ll be genuinely turned off if they don’t like what you’re wearing or if you get a bad haircut. And they’re likely to spend their entire paycheque on an aesthetic new couch for an apartment you’re not moving into (your stuff doesn’t go with their stuff) and then expect you to pick up the tab at the restaurant you chose.

Deeply passive, you will need to take charge in a relationship with a Libra, but they’re so conflict-avoidant you often won’t know until it’s too late if you’re giving them what they want.

Your relationship will end with a whimper, not a bang.

Topline Libra man negative traits: passive, indecisive, shallow, non-commital

Libra Male Celebrity: John Krasinski

Scorpio (October 23-November 21)

Drake attends the 2017 NBA Awards at Basketball City - Pier 36 - South Street on June 26, 2017 in New York City.
(Credit: Getty/Taylor Hill)

When you start dating a Scorpio, you’ll feel like you’ve never met a person so completely obsessed with you. They notice and remember everything about you, they’re extremely passionate lovers, and they constantly finds creative, romantic ways to express their affection.

However, once you’re a few months into a relationship with a Scorpio, you’ll start to feel like you never know what’s going on with them. Moody and secretive, you’ll have a hard time getting a Scorpio to open up to you, even if something is clearly “wrong.”

That wrong thing might well be you – Scorpios are prone to jealousy and possessiveness and they’re naturally suspicious creatures. They don’t like to share their friends or lovers, so they prefer one-on-one time. If you’re looking for a boyfriend who will slot in easily with your friends,this is not it. Represented by the Scorpion, if fights break out or things end badly with your Scorpio boo you can expect things to get ugly. After all, he notices and remembers everything about you, so you can expect insults as imaginative and pointed as his love letters).

Topline Scorpio man negative traits: jealous, secretive, obsessive, introverted, controlling, mean

Scorpio Male Celebrity: Drake

Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)

Brad Pitt, star of upcoming 'F1' movie, arrives in the paddock with girlfriend Ines de Ramon during the F1 Grand Prix of Great Britain at Silverstone Circuit on July 7, 2024 in Northampton, United Kingdom.
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Sagittarians are represented by the archer, meaning they’re goals-oriented, adventurous and love the thrill of the chase. This translates to a lot of fun in the early stages of courtship. Expect bad texting, but exciting dates and (usually) great sex.

Unfortunately, Saggitarians do not slow down in a relationship. Like fellow fire signs Aries and Leo, they like things their way, and their way is often fast and reckless. At best, Saturdays can get tiring and if you want a lie in and they want to do something they’ll leave you to yourself.

At worst, they’ll make sudden important decisions without consulting you, bail on family events because a more exciting offer came up or they “don’t feel like it” and are likely to be careless with your feelings because they’re too busy focusing on the next thing they’re going to do.

They also get bored easily; once the excitement of the relationship wears off, you’ll find them booking solo trips to Bali.

Topline Sagittarius man negative traits: reckless, volatile, inconsiderate, inconsistent

Sagittarius Male Celebrity: Brad Pitt

Capricorn (December 22-January 19)

Actor Bradley Cooper attends the 20th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 18, 2014 in Los Angeles, California.
(Credit: Getty/Alberto E. Rodriguez)

Once a Capricorn makes a decision, they stick to it. Even in the early stages of dating, you’ll find Capricorns committed and consistent. While they might take things slow, you’ll know where you stand. He’ll book dates in advance, introduce you to his family and friends, and talk about the long-term early in the relationship.

This has a flipside. Capricorns are box tickers. While they might do everything right on paper, if you want more passion or emotional intimacy, they’ll find it hard to understand. After all, they booked your favourite restaurant this week and always do the dishes.

They also tell it like it is; which can be deeply irritating. Have a bad day at work? A Capricorn is likely to point out how you seemed to be slacking off on that project, or observe that your hostile colleague has an interesting point.

And while we’re on work, they’re highly ambitious. If they’re busy, they’ll become completely emotionally unavailable, postpone celebrations of your birthday to work late and don’t understand the concept of any holiday you can’t work remotely from.

Topline Capricorn man negative traits: emotionally unavailable, box ticker, inflexible, pessimistic

Capricorn male celebrity: Bradley Cooper

Aquarius (January 20-February 18)

Harry Styles accepts Album Of The Year for “Harry's House” onstage during the 65th GRAMMY Awards at Crypto.com Arena on February 05, 2023 in Los Angeles, California.
(Credit: Getty/Kevin Mazur)

The worst texters in the Zodiac, Aquarian men are on their own path and in their own heads. They require a lot of alone time, so if you’re in their life, be cool with not hearing from them for days or amusing yourself while they go on month-long solo trips. They’re thinkers, and it can be hard for them to engage with or share their emotions. That’s not you, it’s because they don’t understand them themselves.

This can make them prone to sudden outbursts of irritation or rage when something they didn’t even realise was annoying them tips them over the edge.

While they can be a lot of fun and are great conversationalists, they’re also not a great choice if you’re looking for a long-term partnership. Aquarians do not like emotional deadlines, so if you’re looking for marriage, shared accommodation or kids, expect those conversations to happen on their time and terms.

Topline Aquarian man negative traits: unempathetic, distant, non-commital

Aquarius male celebrity: Harry Styles

Pisces (February 19-March 20)

Adam Levine attends The Women's Cancer Research Fund's An Unforgettable Evening Benefit Gala 2023 at Beverly Wilshire, A Four Seasons Hotel on March 16, 2023 in Beverly Hills, California.
(Credit: Getty/Axelle/Bauer-Griffin) Adam Levine doesn’t want to upset you

Pisces men are natural romantics. In fact, they are so sweet and sincere, and their overwhelmingly affectionate behaviour can make more reserved star signs cringe in the early stages of dating (that’s until you get addicted to the praise).

Natural caretakers, a Pisces man will want to look after you. This is great if you need emotional support, but it can become problematic when you don’t need looking after. Pisces is like a partner who needs them which can make them something of a foul-weather friend. They can feel threatened if they become too independent. If you have a day where you’re too busy to check in with your Pisces, you might find them emotionally distant and cold when you get home. On the flip side, Pisces frequently overextend themselves emotionally; they’ll bombard you with love one minute and then need to retreat into recovery mode. At best, this is extremely disorienting.

Pisces are also people-pleasers. This can make them extremely attentive lovers and thoughtful and responsive partners. However, if a Pisces man feels the truth won’t please you, he will lie without guilt. When confronted with a lie, the response, “I didn’t want to upset you!” will cover everything from not telling you had spinach in your teeth to mass infidelity.

Profoundly non-confrontational Pisces will disappear from your life without warning rather than resolve a fight, leaving you with their mum’s phone number for the collection of shared assets and the sense that the entire relationship never took place.

Topline Pisces man negative traits: dishonest, avoidant, co-dependent, moody

Pisces Male Celebrity: Adam Levine

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